The third cycle, with a different doctor who finally lowered my dosages, I produced a slightly more normal (though still high) number of 34. Do you still have regrets? You'll fell overwhelmingly protective. After this horrible experience with donation #4, I knew that I would never do another donation again.
The next cycle I produced 65.
It has been so rough! After donation #4, my husband had found another doctor who was able to treat an underlying issue that he was facing so that we could conceive without IVF. But after donation #4, and knowing that I still had not yet provided my OWN husband with a child, and had instead had shared my fertility with other couples to have families and biological offspring that I’d never get to meet, it began to really affect me.
We have pretty amazing kids, don’t we?I'm Risa, author of this website.
I have a 19 month old daughter and am 27 weeks pregnant with my second daughter. Think about it this way – it’s nine … I’m opposed to egg harvesting because I do feel deeply about women.
Raindrops1. I learned about REs and egg donor/IVF protocols quickly. Although, judging by your medical results, you were out of options, too.I am feeling how you felt two years ago. You'll see him and yourself in them, I promise. ... Not having my own child will always be the biggest regret … Thank you so much!Girrrrlllllll, I did all the "things" and didn't get pregnant with my own eggs. :(Right now you're grieving. At an appt. Maybe it’s easier for me to except all of this as I’m 49 so there was no chance to have baby with my own eggs.
What is it about your husband looking at pictures of the woman whose eggs he’ll be fertilizing in two months that makes you want to sucker-punch him?
Furiously, I started making phone calls and I thankfully was able to find an RE who had worked with me in the past who was willing to take me on at the last second and still do a retrieval on me. 2,145. What can I do? I got pregnant with our daughter on the fresh cycle with donor egg IVF and through a FET using an embryo from the same batch. Especially when using a screened egg donor (as opposed to a family member or friend), the success rates for egg donor IVF are good—higher than the average IVF success rates for couples not using a donor.
Your babies will be perfect and all those late night feedings, diaper changes, and snuggles will bond you. I was anxious and felt time was not on my side so I jumped in and used donor eggs. I informed him that he was leaving me in a very medically precarious situation, as once the trigger is done, and without a retrieval surgery, I was getting ready to ovulate 25-30+ eggs ALL AT ONCE.
I do hope that someday in the future, that some of them reach out to me so that we both may be able to fully comes to terms with this very unique biological lineage that I was not aware of when I created. I love my bio son so much -- I just want one more chance to make different choices and have tried for #2 when I had the chance. I had contributed to the creation of a new life.
Only a few sources, such as the documentary Unfortunately, it remains unknown exactly how common these outcomes are because a long-term study on egg donors has never been conducted—despite precedence for such studies in similar areas such as organ donation. The recipient couple did end up getting pregnant, but unfortunately miscarried at 8 weeks. Only my phantom limb was a human being.My “open identification” status as egg donor was one-way, meaning that my child could reach out to me if he wanted (a status that itself nods to the idea that my biological motherhood was real and matters), but if he didn’t reach out to me, I would never be able to meet him.This was just the tip of the iceberg, in terms of the mental anguish I suffered. We've all done something that is against the norm and something we wish we didn't have to do.
This is a bond that no one can deny—this transferral goes beyond the donation of one’s kidney.As many challenges as this experience has given me, I have learned and grown a lot since. I suspect I suffered from what health-care experts call ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome. I would have to live with the knowledge that another woman was raising my only biological child. Anywhere from a 2% chance to maybe a 10% in the span of a year. You can email me at Thank you!
There are few things I regret more than that choice. I can’t say that I regret having created lives, because I mean, how could anyone say that? Despite our attempts to pay for solutions, sometimes Mother Nature still wins out. However, it slowly dawned on me that this was going to be something I would have to do on my own.
I used an anonymous donor so I didn't even know what she looked like but for the color of her hair and eyes, her height and weight and some details about who she was.